Events for February 17, 2019
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Learn how to customize wax volume, colors, and temperatures with a flameless wax set up! We will cover everything from safety to mixing your own wax to creating the right scene for both the top and the bottom. Wax is so much more flexible than a dripping candle allows. So come learn about flameless wax play!
Service can also be a reward in and of itself, either as a pleasurable thing the bottom really enjoys doing, or an experience the bottom wishes to have for a personal reason. But those feelings can only go so far. There are going to be shitty days, challenging periods, fucking annoying tops who need a kick rather than a sweet, “Of course, I’ll get right on that.” Develop strategies in overcoming those temporary distractions that keep a service-oriented individual from performing their best. Also addressed are questions of basic needs in a relationship and ways of determining if the relationship you are in is overall positive or negative, whether you have temporary difficulties, or consistent ones. Workshop participants are encouraged to share ways they have discovered to keep a proper service mentality, and to being up the challenges of being servile. To encourage honesty and open communication, this workshop is limited to those individuals providing service, rather than managing or receiving service.
What is calibration, you may ask? Well, the dictionary definition is “the act of checking or adjusting the accuracy of an instrument.” Applying this concept in a BDSM context in a scene, a top’s body (and their implements, an extension of their body) is the instrument. The top can adjust their movements, what implements they use, the intensity of their use, the patterns they are used in, etc. to become more “in tune” with the bottom. This results in a more satisfying scene for all. Toppy folks will learn how to negotiate safely and thoroughly with bottoms, clearly read the communication signals that bottoms give off during a scene, and calibrate their actions resulting in longer and more satisfying scenes. Bottomy folks will learn what to look for when negotiating with a potential top as well as ways to communicate how they’re feeling during a scene in order to assist the top in calibration.
In this class we explore bastinado, the practice of whipping or beating the soles of the feet, as well as traditional caning. The class will feature both Domme and sub perspective on this exciting, sometimes scary and always intimate form of impact play. A mix of lecture and demonstration as well as hands on practice, the class will delve into the following areas: Bastinado ● History: cultural context, and modern interpretations of caning. ● Bondage for caning: Secure your bottom to minimize wiggle and unintentional injury ● Psychological damage: Intimidation and suspense ● Making an impact: Safe striking and a review of no-go areas ● Questions and practice play time
Interested in taking your scene to the next level? Enjoy longer play, reduced injury potential and maximize your enjoyment and movement. This workshop will teach you how to use rope to improve your strength and flexibility without the need for a partner. Learn exercises to that help you to avoid injury, manage pain and reduce your limitations. You will need a length of rope that is at least 8 feet long (softer fiber rope “’ eg nylon – may be more comfortable for this purpose). Clothing that allows you to move freely is helpful. Several of the exercises will involve lying on the floor (if you want to bring a towel or mat with you).
The term “vanilla” is used to refer to someone who is not, by our definition, kinky. We have all heard it, often being used in a negative way. But let’s face it: the world is full of vanilla people. Is it possible to form functional emotional and/or erotic relationships with them? Our presenter has been in a happy and sometimes painfully honest relationship with a non-kinkster for over 16 years. We will talk about dating across the flavor line, including discussing our needs (and those of our partners) and ways to get them met in the longer term.
Power dynamic relationships – where one person has authority over the other, such as Leader/supportive, Dominant/submissive, or Master/slave – are sought out by transgender, genderqueer, and otherwise gender transgressive individuals as often as anyone else, for reasons both good and bad. However, we have special challenges when it comes to finding, negotiating, and maintaining our health and safety in these relationships. For transfolk, those who love them, and those who are just interested, this class will discuss the joys, problems, and dangers of trans power dynamics. Taught by the 2014 North East Master/slave title holders, a trans/trans couple, we’ll learn how to get what we need out of power exchange while staying safe and not settling for a less than optimal situation.
GRLee and P.E.T.E. will provide several scenarios for members of the audience to negotiate. Post-negotiation sessions, the class will discuss successes and opportunities for improvement for the negotiation. Topics covered will include: consent, compromise, the enthusiastic “YES,” how to say and hear the word “NO,” and how to talk about the things that make us feel uncomfortable or scared.
We all have inner darkness and demons of various kinds. No matter what the nature of the darkness you hold in your soul, you’ve probably been taught that it is “bad” or even “evil” and that you should try to drive it as far away from your conscious mind as you can. At the same time, you also draw strength and power from it too, even if you may be ashamed to do so. This workshop will focus on how we can, in the course of our daily personal and spiritual lives, recognize and honor these parts of ourselves for the benefits that they provide us, without overly glorifying or becoming dominated by them.
We look out into the world through our eyes, listen to it with our ears, breathe in every breath through our nose and mouth, and communicate our desires with smiles, sparkling looks and verbal conversation. It is understandable why for many people, facial bondage is an invasion of personal space, an intimate form of play, and a hot way to get someone’s attention. We will begin with making rope gags, tying hair bondage, and creating woven head harnesses, but by the end of the class you will even be able to construct a complex head cage! Bring a 20-25 foot piece of 2-4mm line (nylon, parachute cord, hemp ““ whatever works for you) for the head cage, plus a single piece of 6mm line for gags.
Being hypnotized is an ability that improves with skill and practice. This session is for those who want to be better at going into trance, either for themselves or when playing with a hypnotist. Attendees will learn and practice practical tips and exercises for going into trance more easily, more deeply, and more quickly for any hypnotist they choose to play with.
Are you or is someone you love a closet nudist or reluctant exhibitionist who’s plagued with body image issues? Bare as You Dare is an open, body positive, clothing optional forum to discuss those issues and how they apply to radical body acceptance, sex positivity, and clothing optional socialization. Topics may include nudism, fat shaming, slut shaming, topfree equality, body image in the media, and more.
Why are people turned on by being embarrassed? Why do people fantasize about erotic humiliation? Is this a style of play you’ve struggled to understand? Do you want to understand how to do this well and avoid disasters? What are the potential psychological ramifications? What’s different for a one-time scene vs. playing with your life partner? Emphasizing emotional safety throughout, Midori will explore a wide range of play from light teasing and embarrassment to serious humiliation. What’s the difference between a healthy and constructive scene and one that is destructive and harmful? She will share with you a unique model she’s developed to better understand and create an experience that is hot for all the players involved. Are you trying to better understand this difficult subject? Have you questioned yourself on your desires or ability to make another squirm? Or have you ever secretly wanted to be put on the spot or shown how really naughty you are? Then this class is for you! This is a lecture style class with disucssions and visual examples. Yes, you will witness the real deal, a live humiliation scene, as part of this learning experience.
Learn how to fuck in a whole new hole! Join us as we look how to stimulate yourself or someone else through the use of urethral sounds and other insertables. We’ll cover how to choose the right kind of toy, properly prepare, play safe and fun (with just a little meanness thrown in for good measure), and how to clean up afterward.
Sometimes, there is nothing more enjoyable than watching the bottom do all the work, and that’s even the case for S/m play! Whether it’s keeping someone in place without the use of heavy cuffs or ropes, creating a mental situation where the desire to please is at war with the desire to reduce physical discomfort, or even tapping into the shadows of humiliation and taboo play to bring about a desired headspace, predicament play requires a sharp & creative mindset on the part of the top and yields results far beyond a simple physical effect. We’ll talk about why predicaments can work for many bottoms, negotiating these scenes effectively, and using our creativity to make these scenes intense for everyone.
The Organizers Round Table is for anyone who organizes events, munches, classes, pub nights, parties or any other activities where our kinky community gathers. The Organizers Round Table agenda is designed to be attendee driven, and some of the topics that we expect to discuss are: “¢ Consent and our ideas, thoughts, and responsibilities as to how we promote the Consent Counts message. “¢ How to get started, and how to keep what you start going. “¢ Challenges we face as hosts “¢ Outing “¢ How to handle the “bad seeds” “¢ Public versus Private events We hope that you will join us and feel free to bring a list of your own topics to discuss with the group.
The greatest challenge we face daily is acknowledging and understanding the influence of our Fears. It is widely acknowledged that the vast majority of our pain and trauma is how we experience fear, and in turn is reflected in our behavior and attitudes. This talk will discuss the concept of vulnerability, how we can disarm much of its influence by learning to acknowledge it, and how to address vulnerability for better decisions and actions.
February 17, 2019 @ 2:00 pm – 3:30 pm
Everyone knows that “coming out” regarding anything (being LGBTQ+, kinky, non-monogamous, etc.) is difficult and potentially life-changing, but not everyone is aware of the potential consequences of not “coming out.” Lifestyle sadist/dominant, kink educator, and mental health professional Sara Scalper will use this class to talk about what “coming out” means, the repercussions of not coming out, and the stresses related to coming out, and will additionally offer tips for coming out and techniques for self-care during the coming out process. They will also talk about coming out regarding consent violations, as these occur frequently in our community and folks often face similar stresses when choosing whether or not to reveal what has happened to them, as well as similar repercussions when they do not reveal them. Whether you’re so out of the closet that the door’s locked behind you or you’re in the back of it behind all of the coats, come join us as we discuss something that affects the lives of everyone in the kink community.
In our desire to “do rope right,” we sometimes find ourselves lured away from the erotic spark that first attracted us to rope bondage. In this class, we’ll create fun, energetic, sexy experiences that will bring us back to the real reason most of us love rope bondage: connection. We’ll tap into our bodies and brains to create a kickass cocktail of sensual goodness, and you’ll leave with techniques you can use any time you want to go deeper in your rope play. Bring your partner, and some rope. No experience is required for this class: if you’ve never picked up a piece of rope in your life, you’ll be fine (although, to be honest, if you’ve really never picked up a piece of rope in your life, that’d probably be a little weird, right?)