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A brief overview of the history, discussion of safety and health issues, an introduction of techniques and the comparison between older violet wand technologies and techniques and the more modern ones in use today. This class also presents an opportunity for participants to experience the sensations of the violet wand, including direct and indirect contact. This is a hands-on as well a discussion based class that can be scaled from 45 minutes to ninety minutes. A two and a half page handout is offered to all attendees, this handout contains information on basic safety as well as a list of common FAQ’s.
“This workshop helps you negotiate a scene to make it as safe as possible ““ top or bottom – given your interests and personal limits. Note: sometimes the safest decision is to decline play until you can observe the individual and/or speak to someone who has played with this person! We will discuss how to engage in a balanced, respectful discussion prior to a scene, topics often overlooked, and ways to avoid common pitfalls. A safer scene negotiation outline will be presented, and we will have role play practice to increase comfort levels and make play as enjoyable as possible. In particular – we will cover safe words – what they mean – and what you should expect if you use one. This workshop is great for any level of experience ““ especially for those starting out with pickup play and events!”
Curious about rope bondage but worried about safety? Want to know how discuss rope scenes with another person? Interested in knowing what ties can give you the most mileage as a beginner? This class is open to all skill levels interested in learning rope basics, dusting off skills, or practicing new ways to do old tricks. This introductory level class will cover the kinky trifecta of rope basics: Safety, Negotiation & Knots/Ties. Safety will cover topics of circulation, falling, basic first aide and how to mindfully incorporate RACK (Risk aware consensual kink) practices into your rope play. Negotiation involves an overview of aspects to rope play with others- discussion pre-play, consent during play and aftercare. The knots & ties portion involves hands on instruction of ties that are the foundational building blocks for learning more advanced rope in the future. Class will cover versatile beginner friendly ties, concepts and knots that you can use to spice up your play! Those attending should bring: Water bottle, blanket or yoga mat to sit on, safety cutting tool (aka. EMT Shears) and 3x 30ft lengths of rope. Rope and safety shears will be loaned out, on a “first come” basis to attendees.
Being of service or in service to someone is a beautiful expression of a gift. In this class we will explore the act of giving service to another. In some ways, it’s about the act of doing the service given. In other ways, it’s about the presence and intention we hold within ourselves as we complete the task at hand. How do you show up to your service when you’ve had a terrible day at work, hit every red light on your drive home and feel like nothing has gone right?
Want to pretend that your bottom is livestock, or a hunted deer, and it’s time to get the knives? Or maybe you just like the idea of playing Hannibal Lechter? This can be an intense edgeplay scene if it’s done right, even though no one actually gets cut up for real. But you have to know, convincingly, where to “cut” – and these three homesteading kinksters will show you how to look like you know what you’re doing, and safely give someone a scene of fear and surrender. Warning: We’ll be discussing graphic dismemberment, fairly bluntly; know yourself and your level of ability to listen to such talk. To register for this Master Class, please fill out the form here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Master_Class_Registration
Never got a finger up your bum, but curious about it? Love to take big toys and want to go a little further? Want to create exquisite sensations for your partner during a big scene? Never fear! Sarah’s taught dozens of anal play classes, from basic to extreme, and she’ll roll them all into one big ball of sexy for you! This class will be half information, and half hands-on (or hands-in?) practice including introducing anal penetration using fingers, g-spot and prostate-specific techniques, “special” natural and chemical sensitizers, and how to move up to larger toys or hands. To register for this Master Class, please fill out the form here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Master_Class_Registration
It’s awesome when two or more people are interested in play, sex, or dating. When one or more of those people are trans*, and one or more of them are cis, there are particular communication strategies, pressures, joys, and other considerations, that can be valuable to acknowledge and work with. Whether you’re looking for a quick pickup or a lasting relationship, this workshop will help provide you with concrete tools and strategies for how these interactions can, and do, work.
Critical to the BDSM lifestyle is our ability to negotiate scenes and elements in our relationships. Expressing our desires and limits, their degrees and possible consequences is important to building a foundation of trust and understanding between parties. This workshop is a practical skills development class designed to improve your ability to negotiate a scene. Partners not required.
Join Echolynx for a demonstration and hands-on practice in some simple ties for various body parts. Participants should bring a few lengths of rope, a cutting tool, and an open mind to do some fancy ties with a basic knowledge of rope.
Some times we just want to do things for ourselves. As Masters, Mistresses, Dominants, we need to remember we are in a style of relationship where authority and power are not equal. In this class we will discuss authority based relationships and how the left side of the slash (Master/Mistress/Dominant) works to accept service from the right side of the slash. We will discuss pitfalls of being served, how to explore the joy of being served and service, and how to show appreciation for the services given. We will also explore a few types of service and give examples of rules, rituals and protocols to show that we appreciate the person giving service.
You May Call Me Villain McVillainface: Using the Evil Overlord Career Guide for Your Kinky Relationships
February 16, 2019 @ 10:45 am – 12:15 pm
Look, there’s a reason why you like to wear black leather with spikes and studs, or intimidating uniforms with gleaming jackboots. You’re a goddamn villain, the Ultimate Evil, the Big Bad, the Wicked Fiend or Conniving Vizier, etc. But that doesn’t mean you can’t have a working empire of evil, allowing for enterprising partners and underlings to prosper in your company. You just need a rule book.
Good thing there is one.
So come join your fellow malevolent beings as we plot to take over the galaxy – er, work through some of the best advice from a relationship workbook designed just for us.
Seek your authentic self on the unknowable path of ordeal. In this hands-on experience, you will participate in an ordeal ritual as either a witness, a seeker, or a co-facilitator. When you sign up for this class you will be prompted to fill out a confidential survey, which will collect information about your skills, your limits, and what you would hope to get out of your experience if you are chosen as a seeker. Thista will review the information in the surveys, and carefully select an appropriate number of seekers for the time, personnel, and resources available. She will design an ordeal experience to approach the seekers’ intent, and assign duties to others who will participate as either co-facilitators or witnesses. Anyone who does not complete the survey will be asked to participate as a witness. To register for this Master Class, please fill out the form here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Master_Class_Registration
**Increase your speed, flow, confidence & connection in your rope bondage play!** Whether you’re an expert or have only taken one rope bondage class, this experience will help to make your rope play more confident, smoother and intuitive. This class concentrates on an method of essential structured drill set to build your fluid, effective and graceful motion in tying. Great flow and speed skills add to dynamic scenes with powerful emotional and play potential, increases confidence, allows for more intuitive creative process, and connection with your partner. * After the initial discussion, the students will break into pairs for series of unique timed challenges. * These are non-competitive exercises are designed to increase your speed and confidence while identifying areas to improve. * Along the way Midori will work with each attendee to help in your skills growth. Each exercise has purpose and philosophy behind it to deepen your play, whether you cast rope, receive rope or enjoy all sides of the rope in your private play. Everyone is expected to do the exercises, which in turn will enhance your personal play. This Rope Dojo Elective is open to those who play at one or both ends of the rope. PREREQUISITE SKILLS FOR ALL ATTENDING: All attendees must be able to do a basic Two-Column tie. This is for ALL ATTENDEES. Here are quick and easy videos: Two column tie: https://vimeo.com/86208525 Lightning Harness:https://vimeo.com/87832027 You can find these and other free videos here: http://fhp-inc.com/goodies What to Bring & Wear ROPES More the merrier! Several ropes of varying lengths. (Think about how you normally like to play, and what kinds of rope you use. Then bring these, plus extras. If you’re not sure, bring several 15′ to 20′ lengths. Safety scissors or safe cutting device WEAR Comfy exercise clothes. Think yoga or gym class. OPTIONAL & NICE TO HAVE Scarf or blindfold. Blanket, beach towel or yoga mat for the floor To register for this Master Class, please fill out the form here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Master_Class_Registration
It’s hard enough to be disabled, but it seems like all the erotic imagery about BDSM and kinky sex stars perfect-bodied people who can get into any position and swing from the chandeliers. How do those of us who have daily difficulties with our ordinary functioning manage BDSM? How can we find workarounds, compensations, and ingenious solutions? And when it comes to public play parties, how can we help them to be more accessible? Let’s talk about the areas where kink and disability cross in our lives.
A chance for people of color [and they’re allied guests] to meet each other and discuss concerns specific to being a person of color in kink and alternative lifestyle communities.
Why do people go into trance when they stare at a swinging pocket watch, or a shiny crystal? Why does just telling someone to relax, over and over, often lead to trance? And how the heck do those flashy instant inductions work at all? Wiseguy demonstrates some classic inductions while explaining not only why and how they work, but how to make them work better.
So here’s the truth: no one has the same type of sexual interactions or erotic expression as anyone else. Some people want to be penetrated, others eschew the idea. Some of us want to be touched certain ways, others don’t. Just because you’re gay doesn’t mean you enjoy anal play; just because you’re a lesbian doesn’t mean you like having your pussy licked. Every one of us is different. So let’s talk about it! In this discussion based class we will talk about what the hell sex is to us, what we call the stuff between our legs, and what we like to do with it when no one else is watching. Can it be touched? How can it be touched, and what are your thoughts around your body in general? What is safer sex, and how do you actually do it it when the passion is turned up to ten? How do you discuss this stuff with your partners, or do you expect psychic awareness or fumbling in the dark? Do you cum, how do you cum, and does it matter? Let’s air our dirty laundry and talk openly, honestly, and passionately about sex!
This class will be useful for all bottoms and switches-who-bottom, whether you are new to the scene or have been around a while. Being a bottom can be challenging. We will talk about ways of improving your chances of getting play, how to have better play, finding partners, and how to look after ourselves as we splash around in the big kinky pond. While we will be focusing on bottoming, we will also touch on strategies and self-care for submissives looking for SM play.
This is a class for those who are already comfortable with “pain cycling,” building on the idea of “calibration” taught by Sara in one of their other classes-while calibration using one form of impact play can produce a great scene, calibration involving multiple forms of impact play to create “cycles within a cycle” can bring your scene to an entirely different level! Sara will show some “basic” techniques used in different types of impact play (spanking, rough body play, flogging, paddling, caning, etc.), and then will teach the audience how to incorporate all of these basics into one satisfying scene using calibration, checking in, reading body signals, and many other tips and tricks. Create longer, more complex, and more enthralling scenes via the use of “mixed media impact!” To register for this Master Class, please fill out the form here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Master_Class_Registration
We will be covering fabulously painful and strange things to do to men’s genitals safely and erotically. Let’s talk about needle play with the penis and scrotum, urethral sounding, chemical play, what happens when a cock meets a violet wand, and more! For each “tool” we’ll cover safety and counter-indications followed by three different ways of using each one… learn a new skill, or brush up on one you already have on the great ways to be “mean” to you and/or your partner’s intimate areas. To register for this Master Class, please fill out the form here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Master_Class_Registration
What does it mean to be a virgin? How did virginity become so important to contemporary western spirituality and society in the first place? In this workshop we’ll trace modern virginity back to its ancient Greek roots, and discover how old beliefs continue to impact modern realities. By untangling ancient baggage, we’ll empower ourselves with a better understanding of how we can redefine “virginity” for a modern world.
Feeling comfortable in your skin and competent in your actions are crucial steps in making others comfortable and relaxed in your presence. If you identify as an “s” type the comfort and relaxation of your “D” or “M” type is usually something we strive to provide. This class is a practical, hands on class, for adjusting how we perform some basic movements – walking, sitting, standing, changing levels and basic serving actions to heighten the awareness of how they are performed and making them more visually appealing.
This class will cover the numerous ways of engaging and appreciating feet and their sexual, sensual, social, psychological and spiritual dimensions. Subjects of fetishism/partialism, massage/reflexology, adornment, footwear, foot worship, dominance, communication and foot play will be addressed. The presenters seek to share an important (and sexy) pedular appreciation to build understanding and skills around one of the most prevalent sexual fetishes and universal symbols of human cultural identity.
Blank is good, blank is obedient, blank is pleasure. In hypnokink, one of the states many people enjoy playing with is various kinds of blank states of mind. Come explore some of the different ways that we can hypnotically create the experience of blankness and some of the fun and hot ways we can use them!
This is a class for individuals who wish to explore their feminine side through cross dressing, make-up and hair transformation, behavior modification, forced feminization, maid play, service submission. This is also a class for Dommes/Tops who want to explore this arena with their bottoms, subs, slaves. In this class we will explore the following: Liberate your inner fem energy and Encourage fem exploration, Domme/sissy archetypes and roles D/s in sissy play, Dressing as a transformation and practical tips, Posture, gesture, personality and feminization training tips . Please feel free to come as your femme self. This class with be a combination of lecture and demo from both the Domme and sub perspective. We will also have the opportunity for journaling and discussion.
This community is all about sharing knowledge. In this class, Wiseguy shares techniques and skills that can help you be more effective as a teacher or presenter, whether you teach hypnosis at an event or just need to give presentations at your day job. Learn how to organize your material to be easier to absorb, build rapport with your audience, psych yourself up before you start, and more.
Although BDSM toys can be really fun to use during impact scenes, there’s nothing quite as effective at causing pain as your built-in tools, i.e. parts of your body! During this class, Sara Scalper will show you a variety of techniques that will have your bottom squirming in pain even though you are using only your body and your imagination. You will learn which parts of the body are safe to hit and how to hit them properly, “working up” from commonly-hit areas such as the bottom and upper back to the more “edgy” ones (face, genitals, etc.). Sara will show topping techniques done with hands, elbows, knees, feet, and perhaps a few other body parts that might surprise you, and then will show you a few “cheats” that will help you incorporate a few toys into a rough body place scene to accentuate the body impact and create a more satisfying scene! At the end of the class, attendees will be welcome to ask Sara for tips, tricks, and “hands on” help as time allows. Attending this class will make you think of “body language” in a completely different way!
“Walk, trot, canter… walk, trot, canter… walk, trot, canter… good pony! Have a carrot!” Have you ever wondered if there is another way to play pony? Well, there is! We will be exploring alternatives to the usual forms of play; mixing training techniques with dungeon play, erotic play and various forms of bondage. We’ll look at alternative ways to control your pony, impromptu tack, predicament training – and most importantly – grooming! How well do you know your pony? Come find out!
We human beings love to have labels and boxes to put things in – including our relationships. The culturally defined relationship structures, however, don’t really work when it comes to dreaming of our own relationships and following our own hearts and heads. Rather than delve into the labels and definitions, this class will walk through ways that we can re-conceptualize our relationships outside of cultural norms (including the norms within the poly and swing communities). We’ll also talk about communicating skills for non-hierarchical relationships, relationship rituals to reaffirm our intent, and ways to handle the inevitable question: “But what does it mean?”.
Gender and sexuality are both so fluid, and so much more complex than gay or straight and even than man or woman. Participants of varying identities, orientations, and preferences will share their feelings regarding their sexuality and gender as well as their experiences, growths, and struggles. Come ready with your questions for the panel.
Do you crave D/s relationships? Do you want to improve your current M/s relationship and understand your partner better? How do we create successful and fulfilling D/s and M/s relationships? How do we find the best match and avoid disaster and broken hearts? What goes into creating effective protocols? To answer these questions, first we must have a solid foundation and understanding of our own desires and D/s goals of our partners. Long before protocols, contracts, expectations, and collars come out, there’s important work to be done. It’s worth it! This unique interactive class is designed to help D/s – M/s individuals, leather families as well as the curious to discover and discuss their own relationship archetypes. We’ll begin to diagram the expectations, boundaries, goals, and priorities for your current and future relationships. Through this class you’ll gather information necessary in creating effective protocols and the details of daily interactions. Individuals, couples, and multi-member relationships are all welcome. Be prepared to do some creative and hard work at the start to help reduce heartaches down the road! Open to all experience level, genders, and orientation.
Come and break bread with us, and join us in this expression of power and authority relationships. One of the most fantasized aspects of M/s relationships is a formal, white glove dinner service. This evening event will allow an opportunity to serve and to be served at the dinner table in the style of a full three-course meal plus a bonus cocktail hour. We will be bringing some of the leather tradition to teach and share for both side of the slash. Masters/dominants and slaves/submissives will need to register in pairs for this evening event. There is no requirement to have been in a long-standing and established relationship, but for the benefit of all participants everyone must be in a pair for the event. Interested triads are welcome to reach out to the event organizers to discuss any possibility of an accommodation on a first-come first-served basis. For any questions about admissions or style and setup please email firstname.lastname@example.org Event schedule includes an optional cocktail hour and a three course served meal. To purchase tickets, click here: https://fetishflea.com/product/fff-52-saturday1/
It’s all sex toys, all the time, presented with hilarity by Kim Airs, longtime scenester and founder of New England’s first sexuality boutique, Grand Opening!, now living on the web at GrandOpening.com Learn what the latest gizmos are, how they work and what to do with them in and out of scene. Always unpredictable and always entertaining, Kim loves presenting her “Pervert Show and Tell” to everyone at the Flea. Not to be missed!
Learn an effective and restorative workout for the body with a focus on mindful movement. Moving from the deepest muscles of the body outward will help you restore range of movement, improve alignment and joint stability while improving strength and neuromuscular connections. This workout is suitable for participants of a variety of fitness and mobility levels and variations will be suggested to adapt exercises to your personal needs. Please bring a bath towel and wear something you will be comfortable moving in and bring or wear a pair of socks.
Polyamory 101 is for the polyamory-curious, the newly polyamourous and anyone who is thinking about opening their relationship to consensual non-monogamy. Topics will include the myriad of non-monogamous relationship structures, the ethics of polyamory, negotiation and consent, time management, and how to be polyamorous in an ostensibly monogamous world.
From the end of World War II to present day, come join presenter Scott Erickson and learn about the origins of the gay men’s leather community, and how the traditions of our community developed, changed, and even survived and are still part of us today.
Two switches walk into a dungeon, neither knows who’s in charge so they wind up awkwardly staring at each other, before leaving, going home, and masturbating out of frustration while quietly weeping. Don’t let this happen to you! Learn how to navigate through an experience when there aren’t rigid power dynamics involved! Dynamics in kink are often thought of as bottom and top, dominant and submissive, sadist and masochist. But what happens when both partners are switches? How do you establish a relationship dynamic when both partners want to play multiple roles? How do you set scenes and have play that fulfills each person? How do you negotiate and set boundaries around role switching? Part of the fun of switching for many is fluidity, but fluidity can sometimes complicate our dynamics in play. This workshop focusing on creating dynamics and navigating play between switches. We will discuss strategies for negotiating dynamics and play as well as role transitions. The class is meant to provide things to think about in your own negotiations and play as well as be a venue to share your ideas with others!
Join The Boston Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence for a FABULOUS night’s performance of gender bending hilarity, and sparkling fun. These drag queens, whose sistery (history) was founded in 1979 in San Francisco as a way to support those affected by the AIDS Crisis; now, the Sisters stand for non-judgmentalism, entertainment, and joy. The Sisters provide their theatrical services to groups who lay outside of the societal norm. Join them on Saturday night (2/16/19) to “˜confess your sins,’ receive “˜cum’munion, and enjoy “˜nun’ other than the most enticing, exciting, display of pleasure. Special VIP tickets available for reserved front row seats, early admission, and exclusive meet and greet with the Sisters. – Limited quantity available. VIP admission: 8pm General Admission: 8:30pm Show: 9:00-11:30pm with 30 minute intermission (10:00-10:30pm) To purchase tickets, click here: https://fetishflea.com/product/fff-52-saturday2/
Come spend your evening indulging yourself in all earthy smokey pleasures. CBC will have a variety of chocolates to savor, a bar for pairing some delicious cocktail choices with your chocolate and including some house suggestions. Socialize and kick back with friends in finest leather attire. While relaxing some boot and leather care will be available and we will also be able to help with some advice if you are interested in taking care of any pieces you may have picked up that day. $5 Cash at the door; there are no pre-sale tickets for this event.
Come hear authors Cecilia Tan, Laura Antoniou, Midori, DL King, and a slate of other smut-meisters read you their sexiest words.
Have you ever daydreamed of making your own custom silicone sex toy? Maybe you have an idea for a brand-new toy design, or perhaps you’ve found that a certain toy in your box would be *perfect* if only it were shaped just a little bit differently. We’ll talk through how to get started making your own silicone creations, from the basics of casting and moldmaking to finding a “body safe” silicone to use, and we’ll discuss how to use 3D printing for toymaking. Bring your imagination and your questions as we explore Do-It-Yourself silicone toys!
“Under the sea, under the sea, Darlin’ it’s better down where it’s wetter, Take it from me. “Have you ever wanted to be a mermaid? Would you love to tie someone up to look like a merperson? During this class, we will be learning a basic hishi leg tie. This tie is easy and perfect for all skill levels of tying. It is helpful if you already know how to tie a single column, but not required. If we have time we will incorporate our feet and make them look like fins. If you do not have your own rope (yet) I will provide some for you to borrow. Swim on over! Bring: 2 x 30ft of rope (any type), your sense of adventure, and a Dinglehopper (safety sheers). Appropriate for self-tying and partnered tying.
Get your blood pumping and your heart racing as we explore the intensity of Primal as both play and state of being. Understand why it Primal play produces such intensity, how it impacts us physically and emotionally, and techniques to make your engagement more dynamic and enjoyable. We’ll talk about engaging the primitive mind, elements of D/s and the Hunter/Prey model, and stimulating the visceral and sensual experience. Interactive: class requires space for participants to practice a variety of techniques.
You don’t own a Cross, can’t tie an Ebi, and don’t throw a Single Tail. Out of luck? No! We will celebrate kinky fun with everyday surroundings, a few basic items, and decadent creativity. “Creative Restraint” explores the versatility of Cuffs, Clips, belts, rope, bungee cords, shrink wrap, etc. along with decadent applications of everyday furniture. “Sensual Torment” explores creativity and mind fuckery via predicament play, “pervertibles”, wax, electricity, clamps, etc. This workshop is great for any experience level – especially pairs wishing to practice! Bring mats, a blanket/robe, and play items consistent with our theme. Think blindfolds, leather cuffs, metal clips, Velcro strips, lengths of rope, leather belts, chopsticks, rubber bands, Wartenberg wheels, pervertibles, etc.