In collaboration with the Network/La Red, NELA offers everyone a guide to the differences between abuse and consent within a BDSM context.

Abuse vs. Consent Download

Many of you will be familiar with the Safer Sex Booklets that NELA has handed out in droves at the Fetish Fair Fleamarket® and other leather events. The text was originally written by the Stop AIDS Project, and has been used by NELA for several years. The Safer Sex Booklet is now updated, more comprehensive, and includes topics about safer scenes. These include scene etiquette, power play, negotiation, and more. If you are interested in getting some of these Safer Sex Booklets in hardcopy for your organization or events then please email chair (at) for further information.